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i want to know if things are different or if I've made a less than stellar match and therefore I should be worried?
Dating (dinner, dancing, theatre, etc.), having dinner at his/her place, ..., sounds very common to me.
If it turns out to be a stellar match, you can always come back here to learn the language of your sweetheart.
Hi Muriel, I also decided to go to the Netherlands and before my arrival I was also wondering about these topics.
I found a website with all kinds of experiences of foreign students in the Netherlands. If you think you have not made a 'stellar' match then you are most likely dating a typical dutchie. And they are stubborn so it is hard to work out a relationship issue if it involves any type of confrontation or compromise. And bluntness is a typical Dutch attitude (which is good for relationships: wouldn't you rather someone told you the truth than skirted it for an entire relationship? Thanks for standing up for your fellow males from the other side of the (little) pond, Kwalijkje.